March 17, 2014


Filed under: Uncategorized — Knitman @ 9:24 pm

I don’t know how to start this blog off. Be warned it is not going to be like previous posts. It will be hard to write because I always write the truth as I see it. We must always be truthful.   Even if we are truthful only to one other person in life.  Yet he is the last person on earth that I would tell this to. I I feel afraid. I have been feeling afraid for quite some time. Seeing my doctor on Friday confirmed to me that I was indeed in a state of fear which the circumstances would probably not have told me. however she felt I needed to be told bluntly because it was obvious to her that I had basically ignored what I had in my mind because I don’t really want to get down to what is really bothering me.

I asked John that if he were to die in his sleep tonight would he feel that he had had a good life and had an achieving life. He said that yes he had he was very satisfied with the work that he had done and the changes he had made which have made his organisation much better he even had to spend a week in the Houses of Parliament being questioned.  This did a huge amount of good  and although people will still think that the organisation that he is an expert on it was very stressful time for him to his then.

I I am trying to get to the point. I think that my life has been wasted. Yes I have had some success in the dog show world but that has no importance at all in the wider scheme of things. I have had both men and women write to me  telling me the most intimate details of their childhood experiences which I have found very moving and I felt very privileged that these people trusted me enough to tell me stuff that they have never told a soul there are questions that I cannot remember the answers I gave but are always tell pe wake upe that it doesn’t matter whether you are a high born all a low born person, abuse  is abuse and it affects ALL of us there are those who are like it it because of past abuse but it;s effects a life time.  abuse. I have BECAUSE most  selfish. It has made me  selfish.  and I have lied.

I have lied by saying that I have a wonderful life now in comparison to the awful nightmare I used to live day and do not. That was not true. I believed or tried to  b perhaps one day you will be able to see me walking without the use of anything.

I’m going to stop writing now because I have got lost and have gone away from what I originally wanted to write about which is this: I am not this  hero type of person that a lot of people seem to think that I am. I would feel much safer if I lived on the island with very few people.

There are people in my life that I love and none of what I say is having a dig at them because I feel so lucky that they would even have bothered with such a mess in the first place. Most especially John.  Why on earth he has put up with me for so long I do not know. And please no one tell me I am depressed because I am not even my doctor doesn’t think I am but she thinks I haven’t yet truly gone through the grieving process but it seems to me asked in my whole life go through grieving processes when really I would just like to flocking well on with.  may be it’s just self-pity. If I knew what it was I could work through it but I’m at the point where I just don’t want to see a doctor.

 if you have managed to read this far you will see that I have written all over the place instead of sticking to just one subject which again is me and my selfishness.

 kind thoughts on this are welcome. T



  1. hi colin
    I dont really know what I am talking about and I certainly have no medical training
    yes love
    no one knows why we are loved,gosh you cant help falling in love with your soul and john love each other and that is enough
    we dont know how we impact on each others lives and we may never know
    perhaps john could not have achieved what he had without you
    so your perpose if that is what you want to call it ,was to enable john to shine
    cant help you but I do think of you both often
    I have a lucky life ,so I hope some of it will rub off on you,that is a silly thing to say cos how can I think that you are less lucky than I? we are both loved
    you can tell that I loved the poetry of keats when at school,you are a troubled soul,now that is just my way of saying it,nothing to do with religion,just a name for part of us and I dont have a better one than soul
    hug your dogs
    hug john
    I cant make the bad stuff go,but dont close off from the good stuff,the bad will not win ,not whilst you have doggies and john
    love jane and the kitties xxxx

    Comment by jane — March 17, 2014 @ 10:49 pm

    • Jane-you have a talent for understandiung me even though we have never met. I apppreciate that I read all of uour comments and they always touch hoime.

      Comment by knitmanyarn — March 18, 2014 @ 1:46 pm

  2. Selfish my ass!!!You are a good kind human being. I don’t know what voice from your past is infiltrating your thoughts, but I’d like to tell him on your behalf that he can go f***k himself!!
    Love you.:);)

    Comment by fuguestateknits — March 17, 2014 @ 11:17 pm

    • Yes-I tell them regularly but there are times I am overwhelmed. Things have not as good recently but so bad as before. My Dr leaving feels like an abandonment to me, a betrayal. John understands buyt I had to explain it to him. I willl get past this, I know I will but it has been a shock.

      Comment by knitmanyarn — March 18, 2014 @ 4:29 pm

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